The Lollipop Moment

28 One of the legal experts heard their dispute and saw how well Jesus answered them. He came over and asked him, “Which commandment is the most important of all?”

29 Jesus replied, “The most important one is Israel, listen! Our God is the one Lord, 30 and you must love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your being, with all your mind, and with all your strength.[a] 31 The second is this, You will love your neighbor as yourself.[b] No other commandment is greater than these.”

32 The legal expert said to him, “Well said, Teacher. You have truthfully said that God is one and there is no other besides him. 33 And to love God with all of the heart, a full understanding, and all of one’s strength, and to love one’s neighbor as oneself is much more important than all kinds of entirely burned offerings and sacrifices.”

34 When Jesus saw that he had answered with wisdom, he said to him, “You aren’t far from God’s kingdom.” After that, no one dared to ask him any more questions. (Mark 12:28-34, Common English Bible)

Years ago I heard about TED (Technology, Entertainment, Design) Talks. The subjects of these talks are varied. They cover topics like recycling, vehicles and traffic, leadership, and many more.

I love TED talks. On Fridays when I taught, my students watched a TED talk. Then I was so mean. I made them write a one paragraph summary.

Until the past week or so, I haven’t watched many but that changed last week. Some lack excitement but some are powerful.

Last night I saw a powerful talk sporting the title, “Everyday Leadership.” Take a moment go online to and look up either “Everyday Leadership” or “Drew Dudley,” who is the speaker.

The talk is short, just over six minutes, but he packs a lot into six minutes. Dudley talks about leadership is more about small things than large events.

Typically we see leadership in relationship to a position. “The President leads our country, representing us on the world stage.” Or, “The Speaker of the House leads half the legislative branch, keeping things moving and on track.” I left names out to focus on leadership, not politics. These are two of obvious offices in American society.

The quarterback of the football team has an expectation to be a leader. Most carry a “C” for captain on their jersey. But, Dudley argues he is not a leader unless he does things solidifying him as a leader among those on the team.

These “things” are Dudley’s “Lollipop Moments.” He relates his Lollipop Moment,

Dudley begins his story by telling of a female college freshman. Really it is her story. This girl decided she didn’t belong there. She was faking it. She told her parents about her doubts as they moved her into the dorm. They convinced her to stay that night but at any point the next day if she felt the same way, she could go home, no questions asked.

The next day she and her parents waited for registration and her doubts, concerns, and fears were growing. She decided it was time to leave and was about to tell her parents when Drew Dudley walked in carrying a box of lollipops, passing them out while wearing what the girl called the stupidest hat she had ever seen. It was to bring awareness to his favorite charity, the Cystic Fibrosis Society.

Drew stopped in front of her, stared for a creepy few seconds. Then reaching for a lollipop, handing it to the guy next to her saying, “You need to give a lollipop to the beautiful girl standing next to you.” She said she felt sorry for the guy, from him as he turned red, totally embarrassed. She also took the lollipop.

His face became serious, saying to her parents, “She’s been here one day and already takes candy from a stranger.” Then off he went for more fun and games as everyone laughed hysterically. It was a life changing moment for the woman.

With fun and humor, the moment changed the girls life. Her doubts vanished and she was ready. Or at least that is what she told Dudley.

Four years later Dudley was leaving the school and the girl, hears about it. They hadn’t spoken over that four years. She said she wanted him to know he had made a difference for one student. She turned to walk away, then stopped turned back and said she and the young man had dated for four years. A year and a half later, he received a wedding invitation.

At the end of the talk, Dudley said he couldn’t remember the encounter. He inspired this girl to make a life altering decision in less than a minute. Something he can’t remember changed her life. Telling that story is now his mission.

Often it isn’t the big things we do (though it can be) that make the difference. We often aren’t able to do the big things. But we can do little things that make a real difference. A little thing that was so insignificant you don’t remember it, made all the difference for someone else. That is what Drew Dudley did.

Have you made that kind of impact on someone? Has someone made that impact on you? Jesus says the most important commandment is to love God and love neighbor. When we do a little thing that makes a big difference, we show love of neighbor, and in doing so, we show love of God. “For as much as you have done it to one of the least of these, you’ve done it to me.” (Matthew 25:40, paraphrased).

Tomorrow let’s talk about making lollipop moments for others.

Be Blessed.

Seeking the Genuine,

Copyright 2020, J. Keith Broyles, All Rights Reserved

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